Sex is an essential component of human existence. It entails more than just having physical contact with another human being. It has an impact on how we feel about ourselves and the essential decisions we make as men and women.
Your views on sex may be simple and basic. However, having that talk to help your children develop a healthy knowledge of sex might feel daunting. You’ll start hearing inquiries when your kid is in middle school (if not before), and they’ll almost certainly be discussing them with their peers. And, because they’ll be accumulating information, it’s better if it’s factual and comes from you.
Why Should I Discuss Sex with My Children?
Instead of thinking about why you should, think about why shouldn’t you? Talking to your kids about sex is critical to help them establish healthy views towards sex and understand responsible sexual behaviour. When you talk openly about sex with your child, you’ll be able to give them the correct knowledge.
What they hear elsewhere may or may not be factual, and it may or may not reflect the moral values and ideals you would like them to follow. You want your preteen or teenager to be aware of the potential implications of sexual activity, such as sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy, and the emotional ramifications of being in a sexual relationship.
Isn’t it true that if you talk to my children about sex, they’ll want to do it?
Before being sexually active, it is critical for youngsters to understand sexual feelings and interactions. According to studies, youth who have talked about sex with their parents have a higher likelihood of delaying having sex and using contraception.
So, what am I going to say?
Concentrate on sex facts. As a starting point, consider this list of topics:
- Explain reproduction and anatomy in females and males.
- Pregnancy and sexual intercourse
- Birth control and fertility
- Masturbation, oral sex, and caressing
- Homosexuality, heterosexuality, and bisexuality: sexual orientation
- The distinctions between males and females, as well as the physical and emotional components of sex
- Peer pressure and self-esteem
- Sexually transmitted diseases
How transparent should I be when we speak?
Some parents are hesitant to discuss sex with their children. It may be beneficial to rehearse what you intend to say before sitting down with your child. Make an effort to pay close attention to and respond to what your youngster expresses and asks. It may be beneficial to have both parents involved to provide support.
Sometimes children can be embarrassed to discuss sex or acknowledge they don’t know something. As a result, they may refrain from asking straightforward questions. Seek out opportunities to discuss sexuality with your kids.
Opportunities may arise as a result of an article or book, TV or movie scene, or the advent of obvious changes in your teenager, such as facial hair or growing breasts. Describe the bodily maturation and sexual arousal processes. Strive to respect your child’s privacy and demonstrate that you believe in their ability to make sound judgments. Give them the assurance they need to mature and grow when talking to your kids about sex.