Setting healthy boundaries is very important for any relationship. Because if you don’t aware of where to stop, your relationship can become stressful over time. You must learn how to ignore respectfully and what to avoid with full love.
Saying no doesn’t mean that you don’t care. You both have to realize that we all have some limitations as well as certain preferences. When we are in a relationship, we must have to respect our own preferences to set healthy boundaries. Because to love your partner, you have to love yourself first. For this reason, you need to set healthy boundaries in your relationships.
Psychotherapist Jessica Fern said about the boundaries in relationships, ‘Many women are still conditioned to not be connected to their own needs and to focus on the needs of others,’ she says. ‘Often we think if we say no, we’ll lose the relationship.’ Fern also said, ‘Boundaries are the ways we protect ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally.’ Fern said about healthy boundaries, ‘They are also how we establish our sovereignty in relationships.’
What are healthy boundaries?
Simply boundaries indicate covering things like privacy. It is not wise to share the details of your sex life with your friends or allow your partner to look at your phone. You should remember that everyone should lead their personal life and require to set a healthy boundary.
A relationship is not everything in our life. It is an important part indeed. But we all maintain other roles in our lives and have some other duties too. We also have to maintain some sort of physical boundaries.
Fern said, ‘Everyday things are saying “You should do that” or “You shouldn’t do that,” giving advice when it’s not asked, or inquiring into stuff that’s not your business.’
Why do we need boundaries in a relationship?
Boundaries are important to ensure time, resources, and energy for ourselves. However, we shouldn’t be too rigid to our own set boundaries. Because it may hold us back from expressing our feelings and needs.
That’s why Fern said in her recent book, ‘We focus too much on protection and give up connection; we have walled-off boundaries and say “I’m not letting anything in or anything out.”