Co-regulation is a process that helps children to be in more control of their emotions in the outside world. They regulate their child’s actions in a more appropriate way. There are multiple benefits of co-regulation. But it is hard to train them. Because every child has a different mental setup and understanding level. So, parents should be conscious about their child’s preferences while performing co-regulation. Some of the ways to co-regulate are given below.
Self-regulate yourself
If you are not in a position of self-control and self-evaluation, don’t try to go for parenting your child in this process. It takes a lot from a parent to make them learn that and it is a demanding job. Try to make yourself align with your surroundings first, when you think that you are ready for the job, so for it. Positive self-talk can help in this regard.
You are not here to punish them
Co-regulation is not about law and order. There is no punishment involved in that process. You have to keep in mind that they are learning and it is common for them to make mistakes. As they are just growing, they might not have the best judgment. That is why you are training them for co-regulation. So that they can turn into conscious human beings.
Do not invalidate emotions
The purpose of the lesson is to let them learn to control their emotions. But this does not mean that you will not validate their emotion. If they are feeling in a way that is not appropriate, they make them understand why it is not good for them. If they don’t understand the first time, repeat it every time.
Responsive parenting
Be emotionally present for your child when they need you. Don’t be unavailable when they have concerns and need to talk to you. Kids learn from parents’ behavior, so set precedents for them.